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Baby’s First: Surviving the Holidays

12/8/2016

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    The holidays are always full of excitement, joy, and optimistic wonder of the unknown adventures that the new year presents. Unlike other people eagerly awaiting the new year, mothers who have recently welcomed a bundle of joy into their lives have an extra, often unseen and unspoken burden when facing the holidays and the new year. So, before facing the holidays here are some tips to keep your heart, family, and home happy and healthy.

The holidays are filled with love and joy especially when introducing the newest member of your family to loved ones. However, many mothers struggle with finding a balance between social events and bonding time with their new baby and other children. Your baby’s first holiday season is important and should be cherished above all else. Staying home or cutting social events short can greatly reduce your stress levels and increase your time with baby. Small statements such as “the baby needs rest” or “the holidays are really hard on my immune system” can help remind family members and friends better understand your situation.

  1. At family gatherings, placing your baby in an Ergobaby or a Baby Bjorn can reduce stress levels. By having your baby close to your body at social events, your child can relax, sleep, and feel comforted while you socialize. Also, wearing your baby will help reduce his or her contact with other people while reducing chances of over stimulation or stress.
  2. While at social gathering allow yourself some quiet time. Sneak away to a less crowded area to collect yourself. Take a few moments to yourself. This will help reduce drain from over stimulation.
  3. Social outings can drain the whole family therefore it is important allow yourself and your baby time to wine down and decompress. Setting time limits and leaving the party early can shorten the duration of event which will allow you more time at home with your baby.
  4. Hiring qualified and knowledgeable postpartum help can help maximize the effectiveness of your rest periods between events. Planning to have a doula meet you at your home and care for you, your family, and your home, between holiday events will decrease your family’s stress levels and help you enjoy each outing.​

Gift giving is a huge part of the holidays. However, most people are uncomfortable with vocalizing their gift requests. This holiday season stray away from material goods and try something new; ask for support.  Providing loved ones with a “wish list” for professional support allows long distant family members to provide overnight infant care, knowledgeable expertise, breastfeeding support, household chores assistance, and a piece of mind. Postpartum doula services are often forgotten during the holidays, but a request from you may be exactly what your loved ones need to hear.

For those looking for great gifts for friends with babies, the gift of infant and mother care from a knowledgeable postpartum doula can go a long way.  To a new mother the gift of knowing that her child is safe while she sleeps, showers, or even plays with her other children can mean the world. Postpartum doulas also provide evidence based support to mothers and encourage them through many different transitional phases.

Overall it is important to remember that the holidays is a time of joy and reflection. A time to cherish our loved ones and reflect on the past year.

PictureJoyce Thompson, Birth & Postpartum Doula
-Written by guest contributor and A Woman's Design doula, Joyce Thompson

​As a doula, Joyce's primary goal is to help women obtain births and postpartum support which incorporate her personal culture, customs, beliefs and ideology by providing constant support, encouragement and care.

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So You're Going To Be A Grandma

6/24/2015

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Or a Nana or Papa or Grandpa or Grandfather, or an Uncle, Aunt-- or perhaps an honorary Auntie or Uncle. Whatever your role, this can be a big milestone for you-- especially if you are assuming your title for the first time. There are so many different ways you can support a new family when they are having their baby. Sometimes it means you are invited to be at the birth, sometimes you aren't. And if you think this is a big milestone for you, it is incredibly pivotal for this couple-- especially when it's their first baby. There are some really great things you can do to support this family and honor them during this time. 

1. Ask how you can be helpful, and MEAN IT. Be open to hearing what this new family might need-- it may or may not be what you had in mind. Perhaps you could prepare their favorite meals, go grocery shopping to stock the pantry for their arrival back home, cut and wash easy to grab snacks like fruit and veggies for nursing moms. Some families may have some organizing or nesting they didn't quite get too, or maybe they need help with lawn care or other household maintenance. If you can only be with them a short time, you could offer to organize an online meal calendar or house helper calendar with the various tasks that new families might become overwhelmed with. 

2. Be positive and encouraging, and SAVE YOUR OPINION for when you are asked. Please hear what I'm saying here. Everyone has well meaning "advice" for new parents. Everyone does- the lady at the grocery store, the pediatrician, other parents, and their next door neighbor. Many parents have spent quite a bit of time educating themselves on different options for their pregnancy, birth and bringing home a newborn. They may or may not want your advice. Something that all new parents DO need (especially, especially coming from someone close like you) is your loving support. Remember when you were in their position and how scared you may have felt that you would do the "wrong" thing. Every parent needs to be reminded that they are very wise and capable as a mother or father and that they know their baby the best. That they can trust their intuition. When you can be positive and focus on encouraging them, they may be more eager to hear your words of parenting wisdom. 

3. Be consistent. New families need support far beyond the days leading up to the birth and the week after birth. In fact, they may need even more support a few weeks after the baby is born. Other visitors and helpers may be dwindling, and babies will have growth spurts leaving both parents tired and needing more help and support. Checking in with them throughout the whole first year (and beyond!) and offering your support and encouragement at other transitions can also be so huge for new families as they navigate their own path of parenthood. They still will need your love and support as much as they ever have. 

Your love and care for them is so special and needed during this tender transition. If you aren't sure how to help, just ask. You may be surprised at how much you can offer to nurture this growing family. 


This post was written by Hope Lien, a birth doula with A Woman's Design- Doula and Childbirth Services in honor of doula week. Hope is certified as a Birth and Postpartum Doula through DONA International, certified as a Lactation Counselor through Healthy Children, and certified as a Breastfeeding Without Birthing instructor. 

She lives in the Minneapolis area with her husband and 15 month old daughter, who came to them through the miracle of adoption. She was able to offer her support as a doula to her daughter’s birth mother and helped catch her as she was born. She is very proud that she was able to induce lactation in order to nurse her daughter for over a year now. 


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Is Postpartum Doula Support for Everyone (If Everyone can’t Afford Them)?

8/6/2014

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"Most people I know who don't hire a postpartum doula (myself included) aren't doing so for lack of reasons, but for lack of funds. Those who can afford a postpartum doula could also afford a housekeeper and/or a nanny, so for the target market it's a little redundant. And for the rest of us it's completely out of reach."

It is true that the majority of women who need and want a postpartum doula do not have access to them because of financial reasons.  I believe the awareness of doulas in general is starting to become more known and considered a necessity by parents and practitioners alike (if a mom wants one) and not a luxury. There were birth doulas before they were popular on reality television and before Hollywood celebrities deemed them as a necessity. There are many hospital programs being formed, non-profit organizations for low income families and even incarcerated mothers to be. 

This progress did not happen overnight.

Families are not as close in proximity like they were a few decades ago. Most of my postpartum clients are considered “transplants”. Neither one is originally from the area nor are they covered in regards to physical support when it comes time to bring baby home. To be fair, they aren't all well off. Some are walking away from jobs to be home (mom or partner) and they are losing an income. Some cannot afford the services at all and their family (who cannot be there in the flesh for various reasons) pull money together to get help. 

Every family is different and not everyone desires or needs the same services. Assisting a first time mom at home may look different than assisting a mother who already has other children at home. We are not only supporting the mother, but we are helping everyone in the household adjust to the new changes and new baby. A mother who had an uncomplicated vaginal delivery may need less help physically than a mother who had a cesarean birth- but she still will need help in other areas that are just as valid. There are mothers with preemies, multiples, single mothers and those with deployed partners who could benefit from postpartum help.

The need for postpartum support for *every* mom is very real. 

We (the birth community) are trying to make postpartum care just as available as labor support.  We all believe that every mom who wants support should have access to it. It has taken research, lobbying, and advocating for labor support to be available to every mom. We are doing the same with postpartum care and you can help make it available for yourself and to all moms as well.

  • Start planning early for your postpartum time. If you have an FSA/HSA account you can start putting money there if it makes sense for you and if your insurance covers it. I have had clients pay for birth doula services and childbirth education services with these accounts. Some insurance companies will cover a postpartum doula support is there is a “prescription” from your provider. The more expectant mothers and families are calling and asking about postpartum support the more it will start to be something they will need to pay attention to.

  • Since you are planning ahead are there things you can sell, cut back on or eliminate to help make the postpartum time less stressful?

  • Ask your insurance company if doula services are covered. While every insurance policy is different and changes every year it is still worth it to inquire and find out what is required if the coverage is available. In this situation you would have to pay for the services and submit the required paperwork for reimbursement. Check with your insurance provider for more details.

  • Speak with your care provider about postpartum support, what the studies show and how much of a difference it helps, especially mothers who are at risk for postpartum depression. I have heard of some providers prescribing postpartum support for some moms- so it is definitely worth bringing up. Plus, the more they hear mothers inquire about it the more they will realize that is something that should apart of the childbearing experience.

  • Having a baby shower? Ask for contributions to doula services with a “cash gift” fund registry. People want to help and they want to make sure that they get you something that is of value. If you do not mention it you will get a ton of really cute 3 month old summer outfits or duplicate baby ducky tubs. I’m joking, but seriously, put it on your registry! 

  • You have already considered what you may need postpartum, right? If you do not feel comfortable having that request on a gift registry you can make your needs be known to those closest to you. Are the grandparents ”snow birding” and can’t come to help right away or at all? Does your sister want to help but she is on the other side of the country or even city but has her hands full? Co-workers, best friends, mom and prayer groups love to come together to help each other out. When someone is not sure of what to give gift certificates (or cash) are always well received. Most doulas have can create gift certificates for their services so if you've already interviewed with a postpartum doula and know you want her services let those closest to you know.  

  • Have you found a postpartum doula you’d love to work with? Ask her if she has payment plans. Most have no problem accommodating payment plan requests. Be prepared to pay a deposit or retainer. When we have an agreement to work with a family we are saying no to others. This will help the doula confidently block off your EDD time-frame.

  • Do you have a service that may be of value to the doula and her family? Bartering is an older custom but still used today-especially among small business owners. The item/service proposed has to be of value to the doula and/or her family and you two have to agree on the monitory value and include it in the contract. The doulas who are willing to barter usually will not barter the entire cost of service. Be honest about your situation. If you value the service most doulas will help you come up with a plan that everyone can feel good about.

When I was pregnant with our third child I spent most of the pregnancy on bed-rest, he came early and the delivery turned out to be an unplanned cesarean. Based on our life with me on bed-rest I knew that the postpartum period would be rough and it was. I remember still recovering at the hospital and my husband asking me to please find out if anyone could come to help. We’d already lost months of my income and he’d already missed an equivalent of 2 months of work to take care of me while I was on bed-rest and our other children. I’d experienced postpartum depression with our previous child, he would need to return to work sooner than we both would like and this combination caused us both a great amount of anxiety.

We were blessed with meals for weeks which helped tremendously. However, I wasn't surprised when I could not find consistent help during my recovery and postpartum period. My own mother had passed a few years prior and my mother-in law was willing but could only help so much. Most of my family lives out of state and like my local friends and family had obligations of their own that they couldn't step away from. There were and are no hard feelings. I know many of you can share similar needs and difficult postpartum periods. It is the state of our culture right now and why the access to postpartum help for everyone is so vital to women and their families. 

So I would encourage every expectant mother to sit down with your partner (or someone close to you) and figure out what will help you the most during the postpartum period. As a birth doula I do this during a prenatal visit and with postpartum clients as a part of the initial services. Most of us either wait until the last minute or we assume we have everything covered. Being in the middle of a rough postpartum period makes it challenging to coordinate the help that most of us need. Planning ahead for this time is as important as what kind crib the baby will sleep in or what color paint their nursery/room will be. I promise!

                                                                


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